FORGIVENESS
I say
forgive and forget.
You will
say ‘easier said than done’. I am the person hurt. I feel the pain. I need
something to soothe the pain. I need revenge in one way or another. That’s the
least I can do to ease the discomfort. The hurt will not go away unless he or
she also feels the same or more pain than I feel. At the most I may say that I
have forgiven, but, but forget, I will never. . .
But let’s
just take a moment to step back and understand why most, if not all, religious
books like the Bible or a lot of text from the Buddha and many other such
credible sources highlight the importance of forgiveness.
We all
agree on one thing and that is “everything begins and ends in the mind”. The
truth is; it does and this statement requires no proof. Well, if this is the
case than it goes without saying that keeping stuff life anger, hate , dislike,
revenge, resentment or hostility towards anyone person , place, thing or
situation will certainly do a hell of a lot of bad to the person whose mind is
full of these negatives than the target of these feelings.
Remember,
when a bomb goes off it itself has to disintegrate. Once the shell of the bomb
is packed with explosive matter it’s the end of the road for the shell. Unless
of course an expert dismantles it, removes the explosive matter carefully and
makes it redundant.
When unbalanced
food and alcohol habits create an imbalance of stomach fluids resulting in the secretion of excess acids in one’s stomach, it leads to ulcers. Ulcers as you
know are extremely painful inflammations caused in the lining of the protective
layer of the stomach leading to the gradual formation of permanent; slowly
expanding; holes in the stomach lining being eaten up by the acids of the
stomach itself.
The food of
the mind is thought, self talk and the words one uses to communicate feelings,
specially the intense kind with others.
So harsh
words, demeaning thoughts, hostile ideas and plans, resentful words and
feeling, feeling of hate and dislike and revenge and payback are like the acids
in your stomach and the explosive matter in the bomb ready to self destruct or
burn and destroy the very own vessel which houses it before it even makes the
smallest impact on the person or thing it is intended for.
So whenever you are angry, unsatisfied, miffed
or are made to feel small or inferior or in any way disgraced or demeaned;
forgive and forget before you even start the process of self annihilation and
self destruction. It’s an argument with yourself which you cannot win. So avoid
it before it begins. That’s the only point at which you have the power to stop
it. Once the process is set in motion it is almost impossible to stop or
reverse.
Hence, the
sooner you forgive, forget and move on the better it is going to be for
everyone concerned in general and you yourself in particular.
Jesus
forgave even as he was being nailed to the cross. He asked us to do the same.
Let’s take his advice. There is no other source with more credibility than
that.
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